Tuesday, December 20, 2005

Looking for Someone I Really Love

Last night twin A woke up sobbing shortly after midnight. My biggest fear as I dash to him I superhero mode is (oh no - puke!) but most relieved to an odourless room, but concerned to see preschooler sitting up in bed, full of shoulder heaving sobs. I instantly (what is faster than instantly, cause it really was faster) give him a big hug and start "ssshhhhh-ing" him. I asked him what's wrong:

"Ein looking for someone"
"Who are you looking for?"
"Ein looking for someone I love"
"Mommy's here and I love you"
"NO! Ein looking for someone I REALLY love."

"I REALLY love you"
"Are you someone?"
"Not only am I someone who really loves you, but so does Daddy, and your brother and your Gramps, dog, cat, cousins, aunties, uncles, fish..."
"Those are someones too?"
"Yes sweetheart, and everyone loves you so very very much"
"I have to go pee pee"

It should end there, but this is just a typical night, dream, nightmare that happens almost at least once/night, and sometimes as many as 3 times. Not that exact dream of course, there are others like looking for the party, or no one to go shopping with him, etc. I am not concerned about reading too much into any of it, they are dreams. The bigger picture is that he shows many of the classic symptoms for sleep apnea. In a child, often caused by the same old, same old adenoids problem. I had it, snored by head off for years till I was 6 and they removed them. My mother used to tell me how I instantly slept better and stopped talking like I had a gallon of snotty lodged in my sinuses. (The classic, "Hi, by dabe id Datsy adn I hab a readdy bad code.") I even remember talking like that.

So the lack of sleep seems to increase in the winter months. I mentioned it to the ped. at our 3 year old check-up last June. He said to watchi t and make sure it is REALLY affecting his sleep. Well, it did for about a week or two and then stopped. He practically had a snore-free summer. As soon as fall/winter started, the snoring came back. So, I am keeping a few notes, esp. since our ped. is not one easily persuaded to refer to specialists for further investigation, so here we are again, playing 'Mommies in Charge'! and putting matters into our own hands. If it continues, I'll be rather persistent. There will be ENT docs, sleep studies, and if things don't improve in the next year or two, very likely the removal of the adenoids. That doesn't scare me at all, nor does the trek to get there (if needed, oh, well, maybe that sleep study concerns me a wee bit). What bothers me most is the next couple of years of interrupted sleep for the poor little guy. Thankfully he ALWAYS goes back to sleep (99.9% of the time) but after a busy night, he is not rested and it is s well noticeable.

I am rambling on waaaaay tooo much about what may very well (and hopefully) be a non-issue. Just putting it out there in hopes of someone else reading this and having some insight?

Until then, I wish you all the ability to find someone you really love, and that they will find you. Can't get that stoopid song outta my head now..."I was looking for love in all the wrong places, Looking for love in too many faces, Searching your eyes, looking for traces, Of what.. I'm dreaming of..."


Blogger halloweenlover said...

How ironic that you wrote this post today, because YESTERDAY my two year old niece got her adenoids out because she hasn't slept through the night since she was born. Her older brother had the same problem and his sleep problems were resolved instantly.

I hope you find a solution asap, and that you get more sleep soon! I don't know how you do it! I'd be falling over if I was woken up 2-3 times a night!!!

11:23 AM EST  
Blogger DaniGirl said...

Poor babe - he must be exhausted if they are bothering him at night. And yes, it is very frustrating that you have to be an advocate and campaign for the care of a specialist, isn't it?

Tristan has taken to waking up sobbing recently, too, but it has nothing to do with adenoids. The other day I had to put a cold wash cloth on him to get him to calm down. I have no idea what it is, but he has made a couple of comments recently about "nobody likes me" so I wonder if he's having bad dreams like your boy?

Wishing you all a good night's sleep...

1:30 PM EST  
Blogger BeachMama said...

I was tearing up at his dream. I couldn't imagine a toddler dreaming so intensly and that itself not affecting his sleep! I hope that a solution presents itself quickly for you and that you are sleeping well soon.


3:35 PM EST  
Blogger nancy said...

The thing is that he does 'sleep thru' the night, just a few interruptions and so thankful he always goes back to sleep. I am OK with that, it just knocks me out on the rare occasions he doesn't go back to sleep.

HL - Interesting about your niece, thanx for sharing.

4:25 PM EST  
Blogger Running2Ks said...

We go through some of this too. My 5 year old had night terrors as a baby (my husband has apnea and was a sleepwalker, it is genetic) and now she sleepwalks and talks. Especially if:
a) overtired
b) needs potty
c) sick
d) stressed

I can usually minimize the episodes on the first two.

Hang in there! It is rough, but it may improve with age. HUGS!

5:03 PM EST  
Blogger Silver Creek Mom said...

Gee Nancy that is soo sad. Ihope he get over it without having to get his adnoids out. Sad he thinks nobody loves the cutie.


6:44 PM EST  
Blogger SRH said...

I hope you're getting sleep as well.

11:23 AM EST  
Anonymous Beanie Baby said...

Awww, poor kiddo.

My husband has sleep apnea, and this sounds very different than what he goes through--he has about a million mini-wakeups all night long, but no big ones, if he doesn't use his cpap machine. They're so small he doesn't even realize he's waking up, and he SNORES like you would not believe. Is it different in kids?

2:59 PM EST  
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3:54 AM EST  
Blogger Jack Hadin said...

The thing might possibly be which he does 'rest thru' the night, simply a few interruptions therefore thankful he constantly goes in return to sleep. I have constantly been Fine alongside which, it simply knocks me on the uncommon occasions he doesn't return to relax.


1:06 PM EDT  

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